Tag: abuse

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Gaslighting

I see a LOT of this kind of thing, but the top comment thread on this AITA post really summarized it well.

Gaslighting is when someone argues with you about objective reality. Not about their opinions.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/YWQAskNBTg

So saying “she doesn’t hate you, she just has depression/is prickly/doesn’t explain herself well” is not gaslighting. Depending on circumstances, it could still be a douchey thing to say! But it’s not gaslighting.

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Resource: Why Does He Do That?

I just wanted to bookmark this resource for the next time it comes up in my social circle:

https://ia600108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

The book “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft is a classic resource for people in dysfunctional relationships to analyze the behaviors they are seeing. It may not apply to every relationship, but it’s something worth checking on when things seem “off.”