I think “being a contrarian” is one of those things that’s okay if you’re doing it with people who have consented to it, and Kinda Bad Form if they haven’t.
Like boxing.
The better part of valor
Something I’ve had to learn over the years of being on the Internet is that sometimes I am wrong, and need to take a seat and be introspective instead of explaining why I think the way I do.
This was surprisingly difficult to do. I think part of it is the desire to not have people dislike me; but both learning that that’s not something I can control, and starting to care less if they DO like me, makes me better at figuring out what I did wrong and being a better person in the future, which (counter intuitively?) makes me more likeable as a person.
We all fuck up on occasion. (Or, even, frequently.)
We all have the ability to say “Sorry, will do” when a mod tells us to step off or take a break.
I like to joke that I learned How To People by reading a book. But that’s not so far from the truth. Thinking about things and analyzing social situations is how I managed to get social skills in the first place.
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