Recently, my browser decided to give me this article from Psychology Today.
Why your adult child treats you like dirt
It gives some really thoughtful suggestions for the parents who actually do want to reconnect with their children, and who are willing to be introspective and to think about what their behavior may have contributed to the current situation.
And for the other set of estranged parents, who are not willing to put in that work, I would submit the following essay. I read it years ago and it haunted me, because while my own parents are amazing, I have many friends whose parents have done almost unbelievable things.
And, as a final bonus: 8 things not to say to someone with an estranged parent. From seeing my own friends struggle with this, the idea of saying “You know, she’s the only mother you’ve got” would be met with “Yes, I am quite painfully aware of that fact.” So: think before you speak, yeah?
Emilybook 