“You can’t expect the village to show up for you if you are unwilling to be a villager.”
This also gets in a little bit to the concept of RSVPing, and also Ask/Guess culture. It is okay to RSVP “no” to an event! But it’s better to say Yes or No than to just be uncertain; that uncertainty, when multiplied by the number of guests, makes hosting very difficult.
(This is part of why I started doing nuclear hosting of events!)
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