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Insightful thread about poverty and the middle class

I read this Bluesky thread this morning (lost the link) and I think the author has summarized middle-class well. It’s the ability to afford basic necessities and even a few luxuries without stressing out or going into debt for them.

And having that cushion in turn makes you more psychologically comfortable, makes you able to make other good decisions and avoid impulse purchases.

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Gaslighting

I see a LOT of this kind of thing, but the top comment thread on this AITA post really summarized it well.

Gaslighting is when someone argues with you about objective reality. Not about their opinions.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/YWQAskNBTg

So saying “she doesn’t hate you, she just has depression/is prickly/doesn’t explain herself well” is not gaslighting. Depending on circumstances, it could still be a douchey thing to say! But it’s not gaslighting.

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Temporarily Able-Bodied

I appreciate the concept of “temporarily Able-Bodied”as a way to explain empathy to folks who need help with it.

As this Bluesky skeet says:

https://bsky.app/profile/loreleilee.bsky.social/post/3mdgcffmdcs2d

“Someday, you too will be disabled. Your life will be so much better then if you address your ableism now.”

The important thing to remember is that almost all of us will become disabled at least once before we die. It is extremely rare (and usually tragic) if someone dies before disability takes hold.

I’m someone who became disabled later in life: one disability is permanent (hearing loss), and others (like plantar fasciitis) come and go over the years. I can walk without pain now, for example, but there was a period of a few years when I couldn’t.

These disabilities are not “super powers.” They don’t make me special or better. They honestly suck. Nobody wants to live with constant pain.

But having them does not make me less than, or bad, or lazy, or wrong.

So, dear reader: I encourage you to not think of yourself as Able-Bodied, if you are, but rather as Temporarily Able-Bodied. It gives you a different perspective of looking at the world, and is a good way to practice your problem solving skills.

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Jesus wasn’t neutral

Jesus doesn’t ask “who is right?” But rather asks “who is hurting?”

I swear, the older I get the more I am circling back around to Christianity from the other side.

I’m still not there on the theology of a literal God or the supernatural. But I am 100% on board with the message of the Jesus of my childhood, in a church that had a Social Justice ministry before American conservatives made that a dirty word.

It doesn’t matter if the person telling you to care for the sick or stand up for what is right is Jesus or Gandalf or Kaladin Stormblessed. What matters is what you do with that advice.