So, I had appendicitis last weekend! Be warned, this gets gross!
Continue reading “Appendicitis processing”Gaslighting
I see a LOT of this kind of thing, but the top comment thread on this AITA post really summarized it well.
Gaslighting is when someone argues with you about objective reality. Not about their opinions.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/YWQAskNBTg
So saying “she doesn’t hate you, she just has depression/is prickly/doesn’t explain herself well” is not gaslighting. Depending on circumstances, it could still be a douchey thing to say! But it’s not gaslighting.
Temporarily Able-Bodied
I appreciate the concept of “temporarily Able-Bodied”as a way to explain empathy to folks who need help with it.
As this Bluesky skeet says:
https://bsky.app/profile/loreleilee.bsky.social/post/3mdgcffmdcs2d
“Someday, you too will be disabled. Your life will be so much better then if you address your ableism now.”
The important thing to remember is that almost all of us will become disabled at least once before we die. It is extremely rare (and usually tragic) if someone dies before disability takes hold.
I’m someone who became disabled later in life: one disability is permanent (hearing loss), and others (like plantar fasciitis) come and go over the years. I can walk without pain now, for example, but there was a period of a few years when I couldn’t.
These disabilities are not “super powers.” They don’t make me special or better. They honestly suck. Nobody wants to live with constant pain.
But having them does not make me less than, or bad, or lazy, or wrong.
So, dear reader: I encourage you to not think of yourself as Able-Bodied, if you are, but rather as Temporarily Able-Bodied. It gives you a different perspective of looking at the world, and is a good way to practice your problem solving skills.
Something beautiful in among all the rest
Today I learned about the “America the Beautiful Access Pass,” for people with permanent disabilities.
https://www.nps.gov/subjects/accessibility/interagency-access-pass.htm
I think this would be a nice aspirational thing to get.
And it’s got a cool owl on it!
Jesus wasn’t neutral
Jesus doesn’t ask “who is right?” But rather asks “who is hurting?”
I swear, the older I get the more I am circling back around to Christianity from the other side.
I’m still not there on the theology of a literal God or the supernatural. But I am 100% on board with the message of the Jesus of my childhood, in a church that had a Social Justice ministry before American conservatives made that a dirty word.
It doesn’t matter if the person telling you to care for the sick or stand up for what is right is Jesus or Gandalf or Kaladin Stormblessed. What matters is what you do with that advice.
Life Advice from a 43yo
Blogaround time! My friend wrote this and I think it’s pretty spot on. Especially the stuff about parenting.
Short opinion : Entry Level
It should actually be illegal to advertise a job as “entry level” and require any amount of work experience for it.
That’s not what entry level means!
I love Ken Jennings.
That’s it, that’s the post.
https://bsky.app/profile/kenjennings.bsky.social/post/3mbuedepurs2x
No doom.
Go to bed, Emily.
Call your Senators tomorrow.
Owl? Lark? Pigeon?
Some people are morning larks. They wake up early and go to bed early.
Some people are night owls. They stay up late and wake up late.
I have found, as I grow older, that I really need more sleep than I give myself. I can’t stay up until all hours of the night anymore, but waking up is still very difficult.
Per this magnet I found: I am clearly a Perpetually Exhausted Pigeon.
Merriam-Webster Horoscope Word
My word of the year, according to the Merriam Webster Bluesky account, is Kind-Hearted.
I like this kind of seeded horoscope.
https://bsky.app/profile/merriam-webster.com/post/3mbeoejfk2k2b
