I remember having a discussion with someone a few years ago about anecdotes vs parables. At the time, I didn’t think it was too harmful if an anecdote someone told didn’t happen, because the lesson is still valid even if it’s a parable
I’m not sure if I agree with Past Emily on that.
Knife Logic
Today, my friend mentioned the phrase “Knife Logic” to me, and when I asked her what she meant, she had this to say:
The logic that there’s always a knife at your back, that there’s always a scarcity you’re outrunning, and always someone who can replace you if you falter, and so if you choose to help another, you’re slowing yourself down by carrying them. That’s not to say that you should never help anyone, but it always has costs, about which one must be clear-minded. The brutal logic of scarcity and survival is always the deepest underpinning. Similarly, because everyone else is operating under those constraints, you should never expect others to slow their own flight from scarcity by helping you or extending you grace.
That’s…pretty harsh, but it also pretty much encapsulates my own attitude towards other people. I do help people, but I’m always very limited in how I do it, because I have a scarcity mindset about resources — probably due to my grandmother’s influence in my upbringing. She moved to America in 1930, and lived through the Great Depression. My grandfather literally starved as a teenager before cheating his way into the CCC’s (by bloating to make weight, per family lore). Scarcity is one of the Gods of the Copybook Headings that I don’t think I will ever be able to ignore.
Would I like to live in a post-scarcity society? Yes, I would. But technologically, we are not there yet. And until we are, this fact of scarcity will always be the fundamental underpinning of anything we do.
Stop mumbling!
Whewww.
When I first started noticing that everyone around me was mumbling, I realized that if I thought everyone was mumbling, it meant that I was the problem.
I’m so grateful that I did not turn into the guy from this advice column. Full link: https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/09/24/asking-eric-husband-hearing-loss/
Full link: https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/09/24/asking-eric-husband-hearing-loss/
Gift link: https://wapo.st/3N4orKx
PSA, folks: if someone close to you says you should get tested for a thing, or that something about your health is affecting their life? Please believe them.
Remember: we are living our ancestors’ wildest dreams.
I really appreciated this Instagram video (weird lemon template and all):
Remember: if some kid comes over to your house and can’t eat anything because he has celiac disease…that means he SURVIVED HAVING CELIAC DISEASE.
We are living our ancestors’ wildest dreams. Our children LIVE.
And quite honestly, this post gives me the same feeling as Hope Eyrie.
Leslie Fish – Hope Eyrie https://genius.com/Leslie-fish-hope-eyrie-lyrics
We are living in the future. And despite all the bad in the world, I think the future will keep getting better.
Blunt truth from Reddit
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/8oEHyiZY1a
Found this quote from the top comment to be pretty on the nose:
“If you find yourself at the point of needing to present your partner with a well-supported thesis paper in order to convince them that your feelings matter, the relationship is dead.”
Learning how to human
Sometimes I say that it feels like I learned how to human out of a book. Unfortunately this is not literal (one person asked me which book?) but I saw this Instagram video today about “my special interest is how humans think/perceive/behave,” and it felt very familiar.
Abstinence-only leftism
From a friend today:
Just saw someone describe the annoying leftist inclination toward refusal to hold your nose and vote for a less bad candidate and instead not vote unless it’s your perfect waifu candidate as “abstinence only leftism” and I really hope it catches on
Word of the Day phrase: Bitch Eating Crackers
Years ago, I learned this phrase from… Captain Awkward, I believe?

I use this phrase pretty frequently, mostly to acknowledge my own irrational reactions to people I don’t particularly enjoy.
Furniture recommendation
I keep recommending this to people, so, here you go:
Bed frame endorsement. I got their Nomad platform bed with rolling drawers underneath. I have a separate headboard that’s cleated to the wall (decorative only) so I don’t have to worry about its structural integrity.
I’m an Incrementalist
This comic is a decent summary of why I’m an Incrementalist, not someone who demands lots of change all at once.

Do I think we should change a lot of things, a lot? Yes.
Will we? No.
Comic source: https://www.instagram.com/tales_of_mere_existence
