Ten pounds of personality in a five-pound bag
From a friend today:
Just saw someone describe the annoying leftist inclination toward refusal to hold your nose and vote for a less bad candidate and instead not vote unless it’s your perfect waifu candidate as “abstinence only leftism” and I really hope it catches on
Years ago, I learned this phrase from… Captain Awkward, I believe?
I use this phrase pretty frequently, mostly to acknowledge my own irrational reactions to people I don’t particularly enjoy.
I keep recommending this to people, so, here you go:
Bed frame endorsement. I got their Nomad platform bed with rolling drawers underneath. I have a separate headboard that’s cleated to the wall (decorative only) so I don’t have to worry about its structural integrity.
This comic is a decent summary of why I’m an Incrementalist, not someone who demands lots of change all at once.
Do I think we should change a lot of things, a lot? Yes.
Will we? No.
Comic source: https://www.instagram.com/tales_of_mere_existence
This was an interesting “corporate astrology” exercise!
Here are your totals for each house, there were an equal number of questions for each house and 20 is the highest possible score per house. The highest score would be your house affiliation. If you score equally on two houses...idk flip a coin or pick which one you prefer
2nd: 16
3rd: 13
4th: 13
5th: 13
6th: 16
7th: 16
8th: 14
9th: 13
You can find the quiz at this website.
The house I thought I matched up with the best was Sixth House, so, that’s not too surprising. But it’s interesting how close the point spread is.
So today I had what is possibly the most Emily interaction ever.
I was at a dinner party, and accidentally misgendered a friend of a friend. However, because we had already been talking about dairy allergies, and because I couldn’t hear very well, the person who corrected me sounded (to me) like she was saying “They don’t use ghee” instead of “They don’t use ‘he’.”
So, naturally, I assume she was talking about one of the NB people I had already met, and asked “Oh wow, do THEY have a casein allergy too?”
We sorted it out eventually, but wow that was embarrassing and also hilarious in its own way.
Bonus #showerthought: If ghee were a pronoun, then would the object case be “ghem,” and if so, is this Cetagandan propaganda?
So today I had what is possibly the most Emily interaction ever.
I was at a dinner party, and accidentally misgendered a friend of a friend. However, because we had already been talking about dairy allergies, and because I couldn’t hear very well, the person who corrected me sounded (to me) like she was saying “They don’t use ghee” instead of “They don’t use ‘he’.”
So, naturally, I assume she was talking about one of the NB people I had already met, and asked “Oh wow, do THEY have a casein allergy too?”
We sorted it out eventually, but wow that was embarrassing and also hilarious in its own way.
Bonus #showerthought: If ghee were a pronoun, then would the object case be “ghem,” and if so, is this Cetagandan propaganda?
This was a cool personality quiz.
I am a level 5 Lawful Good Halfling Wizard! Find out what kind of D&D character you would be!
Lawful Good – A lawful good character acts as a good person is expected or required to act. They combine a commitment to oppose evil with the discipline to fight relentlessly. They tell the truth, keep their word, help those in need, and speak out against injustice. A lawful good character hates to see the guilty go unpunished. Lawful good is the best alignment you can be because it combines honor and compassion. However, lawful good can be a dangerous alignment when it restricts freedom and criminalizes self-interest.
Halfling – Halflings are clever, capable and resourceful survivors. They are notoriously curious and show a daring that many larger people can’t match. They can be lured by wealth but tend to spend rather than hoard. They prefer practical clothing and would rather wear a comfortable shirt than jewelry. Halflings stand about 3 feet tall and commonly live to see 150.
Wizard – Wizards are arcane spellcasters who depend on intensive study to create their magic. To wizards, magic is not a talent but a difficult, rewarding art. When they are prepared for battle, wizards can use their spells to devastating effect. When caught by surprise, they are vulnerable. The wizard’s strength is her spells, everything else is secondary. She learns new spells as she experiments and grows in experience, and she can also learn them from other wizards. In addition, over time a wizard learns to manipulate her spells so they go farther, work better, or are improved in some other way. A wizard can call a familiar- a small, magical, animal companion that serves her. With a high Intelligence, wizards are capable of casting very high levels of spells.
This section is the scalar values it gave me for each feature (alignment, race, class).
Alignment
Lawful Good (24)
Lawful Neutral (20)
Lawful Evil (10)
Chaotic Good (21)
Chaotic Neutral (17)
Chaotic Evil (7)
Neutral Good (23)
Neutral Evil (9)
True Neutral (19)
Race
Dwarf (6)
Elf (12)
Half-Elf (8)
Halfling (12)
Human (9)
Half-Orc (2)
Gnome (10)
Class
Fighter (10)
Ranger (12)
Paladin (12)
Cleric (10)
Druid (12)
Bard (12)
Monk (14)
Sorcerer (12)
Barbarian (6)
Rogue (4)
Wizard (20)
Warlock (8)
Something I’ve had to learn over the years of being on the Internet is that sometimes I am wrong, and need to take a seat and be introspective instead of explaining why I think the way I do.
This was surprisingly difficult to do. I think part of it is the desire to not have people dislike me; but both learning that that’s not something I can control, and starting to care less if they DO like me, makes me better at figuring out what I did wrong and being a better person in the future, which (counter intuitively?) makes me more likeable as a person.
We all fuck up on occasion. (Or, even, frequently.)
We all have the ability to say “Sorry, will do” when a mod tells us to step off or take a break.
I like to joke that I learned How To People by reading a book. But that’s not so far from the truth. Thinking about things and analyzing social situations is how I managed to get social skills in the first place.
Caregiving work is work. People who stay home to take care of children or the elderly should, at the VERY LEAST, earn Social Security quarters for it. (And ideally, everyone would receive a UBI that would allow them to do things like caregiving work without having to worry about losing the roof over their heads.)
As technology advances, and society gets the ability to be more soft and thoughtful (rather than having 90% of the population doing subsistence agriculture or else we all starve), then we should be giving people MORE benefits and MORE ability to do things like unpaid caregiving work. Fuck the Gods of the Copybook Headings. We can defeat them with technology, if we put our minds to it.
But that doesn’t help the shareholders, does it?
My friend sent me this link to a government website about registering as a caregiver for a disabled adult! As noted there, you can contact your state’s Medicaid office to learn more.
