I had never heard this story before today. This is a real bummer from Magic’s history. I hope they can make an apology.
An orange rose
I remember, years ago, reading a poem about how red roses are for passion, and white roses are for committed love; so the ideal rose for a relationship is one that’s mostly white but with a blush of red on the tips of the petals.
That may be ideal for some people! But I would hesitate to claim it works best for everyone.
Today I was thinking about how my favorite roses are the ones that look like this. I have one as the background of this website, in fact.
Yellow, but with a goodly amount of red as well.
A yellow rose is for friendship.
This, to me, is the ideal relationship structure.
A close friend made this quiz for thinking about your relationship, as part of his work as a therapist. It can either be for analyzing an existing relationship, or for thinking about what your ideal relationship would look like. Anyway, I think it would work pretty well to visualize it with different rose colors, or with a full-om Tussie Mussie.
Clopens
If a business schedules an employee for a Clopen (where, for example, they close on Tuesday and open on Wednesday), that employee should receive overtime pay for both Tuesday and Wednesday.
Having to clock out at 11 pm and clock back in at 7 am the next morning is inhumane.
Just an idle opinion I had.
Protected: This man is a human being
Money is not morality
While shooting the breeze with a friend tonight I realized that “Poor people are degenerates” and “Don’t tell me I can’t afford something I ought to be able to afford!” attitudes are two sides of the same coin.
The first position, commonly associated with rich assholes who think they are self-made, is a mistake because it assumes that someone’s income or wealth is solely a factor of their moral character, i.e. their willingness to work hard to accomplish their goals. However, that is not the case. Not all hard work is equally remunerated; the free market doesn’t care how hard you work, but only about the supply and demand of your skill. It’s fundamentally amoral. (Remember, don’t confuse “amoral” with “immoral.”) This is also the primary reason why we should not trust in the market to take care of people. The market does not care if you live or die.
The second position, which I see more in people on my side of the political aisle, is born out of a place of frustration and anger. It’s the idea that “if I can’t buy a house on 30% of my income, then that guideline is wrong and bad and shaming! Don’t shame me!” But having or not having money is not (or shouldn’t be!) a locus of shame or pride. It’s just a matter of numbers. But people see “you can’t afford to buy a house yet,” and they take it as a moral attack on their value as human beings.
Neither of these attitudes are good. If you find yourself falling into either one, please try to remind yourself: money is not a measure of your inherent worth as a human being.
How do you know what you want?
One of my friends recently wrote on Facebook “how do you know what you want?” and I ended up writing a fairly long response. Posting it here, too.
You know, one of my friends just asked me this too, and I don’t know the answer for sure.
I think part of it was after a young lifetime of being a perfectionist and also a people-pleaser, I had to get good at satisficing or I was going to burn out. Going to progressively more difficult environments (high school to college to a job) meant that I was surrounded by an increasing concentration of people smarter than me, and that was something my ego had to adjust to. But learning that I actually *wasn’t* always the smartest person in the room also freed me from having to always Be The Very Best. I could just be Good Enough, and that was okay too.
So I was able to apply that to my own decisions as well. Is this thing the Absolute Best Option I Could Possibly Choose? Well, maybe, maybe not. But the marginal benefit of obsessing over Relentless Optimization is so stressful to me that I had to Just Pick Something.
And now that I think more about this: I think I cut my teeth on this skill with choosing restaurants with friends as a young adult. I get hangry when I don’t eat (it doesn’t seem to be a disorder, I just have/had a fast metabolism), so when people started dithering about where to go, it meant that I was risking a fainting+nausea spell. So I started doing Executive Decision Making for the whole group, and for the most part it turned out fine. Some people don’t like me telling them what to do, but Oh Well Their Loss.
Like a lot of skills, practicing in small ways helps build up the muscle (literal or metaphorical) for bigger tasks.
Anyway, IDK if this is what you were asking about, but I hope it helps! 
Character idea
I am blatantly stealing this from a friend of mine.
I want to play a buddhist lupine that used to sell trinkets seeking an outfit that truly reflects themselves from a pier
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Ten Essentials
My friend recently shared this resource from the National Park Service, about ten essential items you should bring with you whenever you are hiking.
The Rural Idyll Fallacy
A couple years ago I was complaining about people who romanticize The Countryside™️, and coined (?) the term “Rural Idyll Fallacy.”
Basically, it’s that if many people move to an uncrowded rural area, it becomes crowded and loses the charm that drew folks to migrate there.
(As a side note: development needs to be carefully planned! Dense urban development with transit + old town areas continuing to exist is much better than miles and miles of cookie-cutter foam mansions sitting in former cow pastures. A McMansion doesn’t get better if you put it on 2 acres of monocrop fine fescue. Now get off my lawn, I want to grow a forest again.)
Enough is, in fact, enough: a meditation on Pieces of Flair
Today I was coloring in a bookmark that had the quippy little motivational message, “A Winner is a Dreamer who Never Gives Up.” — Nelson Mandela
“A Winner is a Dreamer who Never Gives Up.”
Nelson Mandela
And it made me think: is that really accurate? No, it’s not. Or, more to the point: it’s incomplete. A winner is a dreamer that never gave up and also scored better than all of the other dreamers who also never gave up.
But that doesn’t make the non-winner any less worthy of respect and admiration!
I have always hated the old “joke” about “What do you call the guy who graduates last in med school? Doctor!” Frankly, I don’t care what my doctor’s rank in a classroom setting 30 years ago was; I care that they know enough to be a doctor. If this person was actually too stupid to be a doctor, they would not have graduated.
Likewise, and I think we’re better at recognizing this side of things, an Olympian who doesn’t win a medal is still a goddamn Olympian. The person who finishes last in a marathon still ran a goddamn marathon. That’s far more than any of the armchair haters will ever accomplish.
Being told you have to be the best just to be good enough is a stupid (and, frankly, toxic) attitude to take. Do the thing. Do it well. Don’t worry about your relative ranking compared to others.
(Bonus note: this is also what I told my fellow new parents when my daughter was a 99th percentile chonker. Everyone has to be somewhere on the percentile chart, and every percentile has to be filled. It’s just the pigeonhole principle. It’s not a referendum on the quality of your baby.)
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