I am blatantly stealing this from a friend on the Internet.
This is maybe a hot take (or perhaps a deep dive? or philosophizing a little?) but I think sometimes, people use the word “cool” as shorthand for “knows and embraces fully who they are,” which I think is mostly true for all of us here, even as we continue down the endless journey of knowing ourselves. And that, for sure, can be intimidating for peeps who are still learning to accept themselves (flaws and all), etc.
Emilybook 